Weddings are all about love, celebration, and bringing people together, so it’s no surprise that the topic of kids at weddings can spark a lot of questions. Whether you’re the couple planning your big day or a parent invited to attend with little ones, here’s a helpful guide to navigating this sometimes-tricky topic.
If You’re Planning the Wedding
When you’re planning your guest list, the first thing to consider is your vision for the day. Do you dream of an elegant, adults-only affair, or a more relaxed celebration where little ones are welcome to twirl on the dance floor?
Think about your guest list. If your families include a lot of children, a no-kids policy might impact who can attend. On the flip side, if you’re hoping for a quieter atmosphere or need to stay within budget, it’s completely okay to make it adults only.
Be clear with your invites. Whatever you decide, communicate it early and clearly. Use wording like “Adults Only Reception” on your invitations or wedding website. If you’re allowing only a select group of children, say, just nieces and nephews, set that boundary from the start and stick to it. No exceptions for godchildren, cousins, or close friends’ kids if they don’t meet the criteria.
Consider your options if kids are coming.
If you’re welcoming children, there are a few ways to make the experience smoother for everyone:
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Have kids arrive close to the ceremony start time, so the space feels fresh and exciting.
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Offer snacks and quiet activities like coloring books or sticker sets.
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Hire a licensed babysitter or a child care team to watch the little ones during the reception.
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Set realistic expectations… kids will be kids, and that’s okay!
Pro tip: While it’s not required, offering on-site babysitting is a thoughtful touch if your budget allows. Start planning early by noting how many children will attend, and hire professionals who are licensed and insured.
If You’re Attending a Wedding with Kids
Before RSVPing with your children, double-check the invitation. If it explicitly says “adults only,” it’s best to make arrangements for a sitter at home. Respecting the couple’s wishes is key, and trust us, they didn’t make that decision lightly.
If your kids are invited, plan ahead:
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Bring quiet entertainment and snacks to help them stay engaged.
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Be ready to step out if they get overwhelmed (especially during speeches or the ceremony).
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Consider where they’ll sit during the reception. Children under 8 usually prefer sitting near parents, while older kids may enjoy a kids’ table with supervision, or even a designated kids’ room if available.
At the end of the day, weddings are a joyful celebration. Whether kids are included or not, the most important thing is that everyone feels welcome, respected, and part of the love.
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