If you’re deep in wedding planning tasks, you might know the feeling: everything’s booked, the big decisions are made, and now… it kind of feels like you’re just waiting.
This quiet stretch before the wedding day can feel oddly still—like you should be doing something, but you’re not sure what. The good news? There are plenty of meaningful ways to use this time that will help you feel more confident and organized when your big day arrives.
Whether you’re a bride, a groom, or someone helping with the planning, here are some tasks to focus on while you’re counting down the days.
1. Make a Shot List for Family Photos
Your photographer will want this one! Create a list of “must-have” family photo combinations—think parents, siblings, grandparents, chosen family, and special people or objects. This list saves time and avoids confusion on the day-of, especially when emotions are high and guests are mingling.
Pro tip: Share this list with someone you trust (like a planner or best friend) so they can help gather people when the time comes.
2. Curate a Background Music Playlist
From getting ready with your crew to cocktail hour, soft background music sets the vibe. Build a playlist that feels like you—a mix of songs that make you smile, help you relax, or get your toes tapping. This small detail brings a big emotional impact.
3. Buy Jewelry, Shoes & Accessories
Now’s the time to finalize your wedding day look. Maybe that means breaking in your shoes, finding the perfect statement earrings, or choosing a special item that represents your culture or heritage. Don’t forget comfort: if your ceremony and reception are in the same day, plan a shoe swap!
4. Refine Your Vows
If you’re writing personal vows, revisit them now. Read them out loud, check the timing, and reflect: do these words still represent your heart? There’s something powerful about polishing your promises as the day approaches—it deepens the meaning behind the moment.
5. Choose Your Aisle Song
This one deserves a moment. Whether you walk solo, with someone you love, or not at all—music sets the tone. Pick a song that gives you goosebumps or brings a tear to your eye. It doesn’t have to be traditional. It just has to feel true. Check out this curated list of best songs on Youtube.
6. Plan Hair & Makeup
If hair and makeup are part of your celebration, plan your style and book any final trials. Take photos of looks you love and communicate clearly with your stylist. You’ll want to feel like the best version of yourself—not someone unrecognizable in photos.
7. Pick a ‘Getting Ready’ Room
Where you start your day matters. Choose a space that feels calm, beautiful, and practical. Is there good lighting? Enough outlets? A mirror? Room for your people? Whether it’s a suite, a family home, or a cozy Airbnb—this is where the butterflies begin to flutter.
8. Outline Your Wedding Day Schedule
Even if you have a planner (like us), it helps to sketch out a timeline that you feel comfortable with — from when vendors arrive to the last dance. Think hair and makeup, photos, travel, meals, and meaningful moments. A well-planned day helps everyone stay on the same page and reduces stress for you and your crew.
9. Settle Outstanding Invoices
You’ll want all the “business stuff” done before wedding weekend. Check in with vendors, confirm final totals, and pay any remaining balances. Pro tip: designate someone to be the point person for payments or questions on the big day so you can be fully present.
10. Gather Sentimental Items for Photos
A handwritten note, your grandmother’s locket, heirloom cufflinks, or a favorite fragrance—these little items tell the story of you. Set them aside now and make a note so your photographer can capture them with intention.
Let the Waiting Feel Like Part of the Fun
The time before your wedding day isn’t just about holding your breath—it’s part of the process too. This quiet in-between time is perfect for adding personal touches, tying up loose ends, and reconnecting with the reason you’re doing all of this: each other.
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